Relationship Part II

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Household responsibilities 
- Becomes critical part of daily life in marriage
- Responsibilities such as Groceries, maintaining cleanliness at home are such a boring things but still someone needs to maintain it. 

Enjoying the life 
- Unfortunately marriage brings a lot of responsibilities and definition of enjoying the life needs to be revisited. Weekend visits to mall, annual trips to hill stations may reduce significantly. But listening together to favorite music tracks on a Friday night may become the new definition. Always remember your childhood; while we were enjoying our lives without any worries, it was our parents who were sacrificing the fun in their lives to make it happen. They also had their dreams which they never made it apparent in front of us. 

Introvert Versus Extrovert 
- A seemingly introvert person may not be introvert in personal life. But then every time other person can't take initiative to bring the person out of the introvert mood. 
- Communication forms very essential part of married life. All your weaknesses are exposed to your partner after marriage. Before marriage it is our mother who knows all our strengths and weaknesses; due to unconditional love she has for the kid, our weaknesses are not exposed / scrutinized beyond a certain extent. But after the marriage it is bit different. Both you and your partner will need time to get used to each others weaker avatar. Readiness to admit one's weakness is first important step. Identifying /  agreeing if certain behavior can be considered weakness itself is big step. There are certain behaviors which can't be get rid off. In these situation your partner should go that extra step to ensure that you don't feel guilty of these behavioral patterns. 
Emotional Quotient 
The outside world never gets a real view of who is really emotionally stronger in a relationship. Men appear to emotionally stronger during day-to-day life scenarios but in situations of crisis women tend to emerge out as stronger partners. The desire to survive as family unit, overcome troubled times is much stronger in women. 

 How much I love myself 
Till marriage one never realizes how much he / she is in love ourselves. We always have our own space. But after marriage 'Me time' drastically reduces and getting used to this lack of 'Me time' can take some time. While one is so particular about his / her own appearance / Style quotient, appropriate consideration needs to be shown to partner's attention needs.   

Career 
- If both the partners are working in same profession, then it is very important that they should be able to provide each other support in their professional career. Also agreement on how to handle the scenario if woman's career shapes up really well as compared to man's career is essential.   


Marrying to a colleague in the office 
- Follow a strict rule of not taking office discussion to home
- Becomes difficult to forget tensions from home in office

 Coming out from a heated argument 

- Ensure that you don't say anything during the heat of the conversation that would hurt the partner deeply.
- Also after the argument is over, one of the partners need to take initiative to restart the conversation. 

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