Relationship!
It is very easy for an outsider to give advice about relationships. Every individual knows himself / herself well. When one is getting into a relationship, it is journey into unknown. The person may be known or unknown before you get into relationship with him/ her. But even a known person in a social life may reveal various altogether unknown aspects of his / her personality during personal life . Even one doesn't know how his / her own personality is going to evolve during a relationship. So key aspect is to know yourself well first.
Don't get yourself boxed with certain constraints. Staying with parents-in-laws is good Indian culture. One has to answer question - does the compromises which are required to stay with parents-in-laws are suitable for my personality? One should be able to imagine two views about prospective partner. One with his parents and another without parents. At times staying separately from in-laws but providing them all possible support may turn out to be a good option.
Financial aspect - Our experiences with life makes us extra cautious. and in some communities it becomes extra important. Definitely it is an important factor. Am I getting into possibility of financial liability if my partner is not well placed financially? valid question. The answer is definitely not easy. Only option which I can think of is to keep one's financial accounts separate till one is comfortable in a relationship. That leads us to another aspect. At what point, I should commit myself entirely into a relationship. My answer is right from beginning. Go whole heartedly into a relationship right from beginning with a hope that you are going to bring best out from your partner. Be clear in communication to partner in terms of what you need from him / her in that relationship.
There is nothing called such as perfect partner or perfect relationship. With every passing year, we become more mature increasing our need for more matured partner. But never bring the maturity into play in a relationship right from beginning unless absolute necessary. Maturity makes us evaluate everything based on its materialistic value. You have three factors into a relationship. You, your partner and the quality of relationship itself. Everyone has different expectations about the quality of the relationships. Some may expect it to be perfect; some may need it for sake of society. Those who expect it to be perfect; may get too involved but if the partner is not keen on the perfect quality of relationship then it may bring disappointment.
From woman perspective, do I need to marry a man who is superior than me at least on one aspect say financial, education or social status? Definitely marrying a person with better financial, education or social status does help in terms of acceptance from the society. So answering from traditional Indian mindset; answer is yes. But in modern times; the answer may have turn out to be different. You may need to marry a man who could protect you emotionally when you need him. A woman who has been taken care well in terms of her emotional needs may do wonders in her personal and professional life.
The list continues. Each relationship brings its own uniqueness. And in 99.99% cases both partners never openly discuss the various aspects of their relationship. Discussing the relationship, mostly helps in resolving the conflicts in early stages. Word of caution - at times it may turn a bad situation into worse if one of the partner takes offense from some the comments. So be careful.
No conclusive advice; its complex! Go with full faith and commitment and leave it to that almighty to make it work!!
Don't get yourself boxed with certain constraints. Staying with parents-in-laws is good Indian culture. One has to answer question - does the compromises which are required to stay with parents-in-laws are suitable for my personality? One should be able to imagine two views about prospective partner. One with his parents and another without parents. At times staying separately from in-laws but providing them all possible support may turn out to be a good option.
Financial aspect - Our experiences with life makes us extra cautious. and in some communities it becomes extra important. Definitely it is an important factor. Am I getting into possibility of financial liability if my partner is not well placed financially? valid question. The answer is definitely not easy. Only option which I can think of is to keep one's financial accounts separate till one is comfortable in a relationship. That leads us to another aspect. At what point, I should commit myself entirely into a relationship. My answer is right from beginning. Go whole heartedly into a relationship right from beginning with a hope that you are going to bring best out from your partner. Be clear in communication to partner in terms of what you need from him / her in that relationship.
There is nothing called such as perfect partner or perfect relationship. With every passing year, we become more mature increasing our need for more matured partner. But never bring the maturity into play in a relationship right from beginning unless absolute necessary. Maturity makes us evaluate everything based on its materialistic value. You have three factors into a relationship. You, your partner and the quality of relationship itself. Everyone has different expectations about the quality of the relationships. Some may expect it to be perfect; some may need it for sake of society. Those who expect it to be perfect; may get too involved but if the partner is not keen on the perfect quality of relationship then it may bring disappointment.
From woman perspective, do I need to marry a man who is superior than me at least on one aspect say financial, education or social status? Definitely marrying a person with better financial, education or social status does help in terms of acceptance from the society. So answering from traditional Indian mindset; answer is yes. But in modern times; the answer may have turn out to be different. You may need to marry a man who could protect you emotionally when you need him. A woman who has been taken care well in terms of her emotional needs may do wonders in her personal and professional life.
The list continues. Each relationship brings its own uniqueness. And in 99.99% cases both partners never openly discuss the various aspects of their relationship. Discussing the relationship, mostly helps in resolving the conflicts in early stages. Word of caution - at times it may turn a bad situation into worse if one of the partner takes offense from some the comments. So be careful.
No conclusive advice; its complex! Go with full faith and commitment and leave it to that almighty to make it work!!
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